Standing Guard – Marriage and Family Security System

Installation of a security system includes the following:

1)      Placing sensors at each access point of the home or building. Sensors which are also called Passive Infrared Detectors, detect the movement of a heat source

a)      Doors (Front = Future and Back = Past)

b)      Windows (Openings or vulnerabilities)

c)      Patio Doors or Fire Escapes (Things that attempt to slide through or escape)

2)      Extra Features – Panic Button and Anti-Tamper safeguards for sensors and control panel( You as the intercessor for your family are in charge of these)

Many times it takes an intrusion before families install a security system. It is only after their possessions have been stolen or their lives endangered that they take the steps to protect. It is the same for your life, marriage and family. Nehemiah was proactive in installing a security system after rebuilding what had been knocked down and we must do the same. This following prayer is developed to cover every area that a natural security system would cover.

Nehemiah 7  1 Then it was, when the wall was built and I had hung the doors, when the gatekeepers, the singers, and the Levites had been appointed, that I gave the charge of Jerusalem to my brother Hanani, and Hananiah the leader of the citadel, for he was a faithful man and feared God more than many.

And I said to them, “Do not let the gates of Jerusalem be opened until the sun is hot; and while they stand guard, let them shut and bar the doors; and appoint guards from among the inhabitants of Jerusalem, one at his watch station and another in front of his own house.”

Nehemiah 4 13 Therefore I positioned men behind the lower parts of the wall, at the openings; and I set the people according to their families, with their swords, their spears, and their bows. 14 And I looked, and arose and said to the nobles, to the leaders, and to the rest of the people, “Do not be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, great and awesome, and fight for your brethren, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your houses.”


We first ask for forgiveness of any and all sin that would prevent us from coming boldly to the throne of grace. We plead the BLOOD OF JESUS over each family intercessor: praying husband, praying wife, praying father, praying mother, praying man, praying woman and over EVERY DOORPOST of every marriage, marriage bed, family and home in Jesus name. We decree that where the BLOOD is found any form of death that would try to come to any marriage, family, purpose or destiny must pass over because of the BLOOD. We place the BLOOD OF JESUS behind the lower parts (hidden or discreet openings), we bind up and lock up every vulnerability in Jesus name, placing bars on all schemes and tactics of the enemy in Jesus name!

We remember the Lord, great and awesome and we fight for our brethren, sons, daughters, wives, husbands and our houses! We are girded with the entire armor of God which includes the Sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God!!! We know that because our marriages and families dwell in the secret place of the most High that You Lord are our refuge and our fortress and nothing can get to us there!

We shut and bar the doors of the past in Jesus name and command them to never reopen. We shut and bar the doors of any enemy intrusion (gossip, slander, fornication, generational curses, adultery, sabotage and seducing spirits) that would try to block the future, purpose and destiny of any of our family members in Jesus name! We plead the BLOOD OF JESUS over the eyes and ears of our spouses and family that they only see Your Word, Hear Your Word and live Your Word. Their feet are shod with the gospel of peace and they are unmovable always abounding in the work of the Lord!

We plead the BLOOD over the destiny and purpose of every husband, wife and family member. We plead the BLOOD over the Apostles, Pastors, Teachers, Evangelists, Prophets that You Lord called before the foundations of the earth and decree that they shall come forth as pure gold. It is written that what God has joined together, no man, no woman or spirit can put asunder. It is written that our entire households would be saved and that the Lord perfects EVERYTHING that concerns us.

We bind gossip, backbiting, jealousy, envy and wrath in Jesus name. We send out warning to any and all spirits to “TOUCH NOT HIS ANOINTED in Jesus name! We loose the Spirit of Truth (Holy Spirit) to stand as an appointed guard who will alert of us of any intruders so that we can pray and operate in our kingdom authority. Just as sensors sense movement and transform the image to a TV display. Holy Spirit we ask that whenever enemy movement is attempted that the image is transmitted to the “knower” of the believer so that we as intercessors are able to see exactly what the enemy may be plotting. It is written:  ”He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.” Once revealed, we will speak and decree the Word of God over the situation and it will be established. It is written in Nehemiah 4 that once our enemies hear that they have been found out, and that God has brought each and every plot to nothing that we return to our assignment and our work. We thank You Lord, that the BLOOD continues to speak on our behalf, in Jesus name we pray, AMEN!


Psalms 91 – Prayer of Protection

Insert names (Never take protection for granted, pray daily) – Change the name in vs. 16 to your name!

Because my husband, children, family and I dwell in the secret place of the Most High, They shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is our refuge and our fortress; Our God, in Him we will trust.”

Surely He shall deliver my husband, children, family and I from the snare of the fowler
And from the perilous pestilence. He shall cover my husband, children, family and I with His feathers, And under His wings my husband, children, family and I shall take refuge; His truth shall be our shield and buckler. my husband, children, family and I shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday.

A thousand may fall at our side, And ten thousand at our right hand; But it shall not come near my husband, children, family and I. Only with our eyes shall we look, And see the reward of the wicked.

Because my husband, children, family and I have made the Lord, who is our refuge, Even the Most High, our dwelling place, 10 No evil shall befall us, Nor shall any plague come near our dwelling; 11 For He shall give His angels charge over us, To keep us in all our ways. 12 In their hands they shall bear us up, Lest we dash our foot against a stone. 13 You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot.

14 “Because my husband, children, family and I has set their love upon Me, therefore I will deliver them; I will set them on high, because they know My name. 15 They shall call upon Me, and I will answer them; I will be with them in trouble; I will deliver them and honor them. 16 With long life I will satisfy Cheryl’s husband, children, family and herself, And show all of them My salvation.”

Binding the spirit of intimidation

In Nehemiah 6, the wall has been completed and the letters of intimidation continued to come even though the work was completed. God has already completed the work and the manifestation is visible to all who look on. Nehemiah 6:16  When all our enemies heard about this, all the surrounding nations were afraid and lost their self-confidence, because they realized that this work had been done with the help of our God.”

Manifestation of the promises of God cause your enemies to realize that they are defeated, however this does not mean that your enemies will cease their attack on your minds by sending words of intimidation. Intimidate means – to compel or deter by or as if by threats. Nehemiah had a word and instruction from God but was not moved by the enemies’ tactics of intimidation. These are words that are sent out to break you down, bringing doubt and cause you to give up. These people that the enemy uses to carry these words are usually those either closest to you or someone that knows the Word of God. In Nehemiah’s case, a prophet was used by the enemy to deter him. Yep, that’s right; the enemy is defeated not stupid. 🙂 He knows who to use so that is why some seasons you may walk alone, just you and God!!!!!

Never underestimate the crooked mindset of the enemy. The enemy will use whomever to attempt to derail your purpose and your destiny. Test the spirit by the spirit. Know what God has said about you and don’t allow ANYONE, get you off the set path of God. God orders your steps not man! Nehemiah understood that it was all a part of the process and allowed God to handle every last one of them.

Father in the name of Jesus we come before You asking first for your forgiveness of our sins; Sins that we have done both knowingly and unknowingly. We plead the blood of Jesus over our lives from the crown of our heads to the soles of our feet. We plead the blood over our spouses, children and family now in Jesus name. We remind the enemy that he is bound and headed for eternal damnation and that we have been redeemed by grace and headed for eternal life with the King of kings and the Lord of lords. We bind now the strong man of fear and sever the heads of intimidation and doubt now in Jesus name. I command every spirit of intimidation to cease, fall to the ground and die now in Jesus name! We plead the blood of Jesus over our minds, our spouses’ minds, children’s minds and families’ minds! We loose faith into each one of their lives now! We bind the mind of Christ to our minds now in Jesus name. We plead the blood of Jesus over our ears, our spouses’ ears, children’s ears and families’ ears and decree that the only voice we will follow is the voice of the Lord.

We decree that every other voice is silenced NOW in Jesus name. I decree that no weapon formed against the purpose and destiny of my spouse or me shall prosper and every lying tongue that rises against him in judgment He shall condemn. Our steps have been ordered by the Lord and every where our feet has tread has been given to us!

I decree that all we see is destiny! I decree that all we see is purpose! I decree that the plan of God set out before the foundation of the earth will come to pass in our lifetime.

In Jesus name, Amen!

Binding Gossip and Slander

Father in the name of Jesus we come before You with a spirit of gratefulness and praise. We ask for forgiveness of any and all sin so that we may come to your throne room boldly to make our petitions known. We plead the blood of Jesus over our lives and the lives of our spouses and family members and decree that no weapon formed against them shall prosper and every lying tongue that rises against them in judgment He shall condemn. In the name of Jesus, satan we bind you now in Jesus name!

We stand in the gap and bind up every gossiping tongue, lying tongue, negative word, doubting tongue that has been spoken against our families, marriages, children and our purpose and destiny in the name of Jesus. Lord You said that whatever we bind in the earth is bound in heaven, and whatever we loose in the earth is loosed in the heaven. We send every negative word back to sender into the enemies’ camp! There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.

It is written:Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.”

We decree that death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. We decree that there will be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. Let all thoughts, opinions line up with the mind of Christ. Help each one to take captive every thought and put it under subjection of the Lord Jesus Christ. We loose words that edify and build up the families, marriages and the body of Christ as a whole. We bind the mind of Christ to everyone that is allowing negative words to come out of their mouths. We plead the blood over each and every tongue that the words will either be purified or stopped before speaking in Jesus name. We bind up all works of the flesh and loose the fruits of the spirit. We pray healing for those that have been hurt and ask You Lord to bind up their wounds, heal the broken-hearted and set them on their correct path of purpose and destiny. I decree and speak into the atmosphere with my delegated kingdom authority, that every bit of gossip and slander that has been spoken over my life, my spouse’s life and the life of my children fall to the ground and die NOW, in Jesus name!

We loose the agape love of Jesus Christ to flow throughout and cover every person that has spoken a negative word.

We decree that love covers a multitude of sins! We love the Lord our God with all of our heart, mind and soul and we love our neighbors as our selves. We would not lie, slander or gossip about our own lives therefore we do not do it regarding our neighbors.

In Jesus name it is so, Amen!!!

Rebuilding Marriages – The Dung Gate

Neh 3:14 But the dung gate repaired Malchiah the son of Rechab, the ruler of part of Bethhaccerem; he built it, and set up the doors thereof, the locks thereof, and the bars thereof.

Through the Dung Gate, trash and refuse were taken out of Jerusalem, to a valley of Hinnom, in which those trashes were burnt. In the same way as trashes couldn’t, stink and smell bad in Jerusalem, but were burnt in a valley of Hinnom.

How does this relate to rebuilding your marriage? The dung represents the trash of your past. By using the Dung Gate, you are getting rid of the unusable parts of your life that will not benefit you in your present situation (your rebuilt marriage). The Dung Gate had its purpose: through it the sinful nature of the flesh is discarded, the bitterness, anger and wrath are thrown out. Casting out that sin, which smells bad and destroys, our heart and mind, must put away, by dying of the flesh.

Matthew 15:17 “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.”

Those bad things that came into body through the trials in your marriage(bitterness, envy, betrayal, adultery) must leave your body, because you and your spouse are one flesh. You cannot cover up hurt or other circumstances and expect it never to show up again. You have to address your hurt, ask the Holy Spirit, Jehovah Rophi to heal you and replenish those wounds with the agape love of Jesus Christ. He binds up the wounds, and heals the broken-hearted.

How many times have we hurt Him, repented and he forgives us? We must have the same heart as our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Dung has a two-fold purpose. 1) Throw it out; 2) It is used for fuel

Those bad things that you experienced can now be recycled, by the burning away of unusable parts and can now be used to minister to others. Your testimony (test refined through the fire) can now be used as another source, helping others in their marriage crises.

To God be the glory! Your have overcome by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of your testimony! That means that as you speak the (Fuel) of your testimony someone else can overcome as well. God is no respecter of persons, what He has done for one, He will do for you!!! In Jesus name, Amen!



Prayer for spouse’s strength

Insert your spouses names to personalize it

Lord we come to your throne boldly today. We first ask for forgiveness of any and all sin that would keep us from Your Presence. We come before You asking You to give our spouses; those active in ministry and life; strength to perform Your Will in this earth.

We plead the blood of Jesus over their minds, bodies and spirits and decree that no weapon formed against them shall prosper and that EVERY lying tongue that rises against them in judgment shall be proven to be wrong! We bind up every negative and nay saying spirit and send it back to sender in Jesus name. We command every negative word to fall to the ground and die in Jesus name. Touch not His anointed and do his prophets no wrong. It is so!

We decree that our spouses shall not become weary in well doing, that their strength shall be renewed like the eagles, they shall walk and not be weary, and they shall run and not faint. Our spouses can do everything through Christ who gives them strength. As our spouses perform His will in the earth we know that He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. We decree that their kindness will not be spoken evil of. Their souls are not weary with sorrow; and that our spouses are strengthened according to Your Word. Our spouses are strong in the Lord and in His might power.

We decree that because our spouses hope in the Lord their strength is renewed. Our spouses will soar on wings like eagles and that they love the Lord our God with all of their heart, all of their soul and all of their mind and with all of their strength. God’s grace is sufficient for our spouses, for His power is made perfect in their weakness. God is their refuge and strength, and ever-present help in trouble. The joy of the Lord is our spouse’s strength. We decree that the Lord is not far off, Strength come to them quickly to help them.

The Lord is our strength and our song, He has become our salvation!

In Jesus name, Amen!

Prayer for sight

Lord I ask for forgiveness of any and all sin. I plead the blood of Jesus over the eyes of my spouse and myself in Jesus name! I bind you satan in Jesus name, whatever I bind on earth is bound in heaven, whatever I loose in earth is loosed in heaven. I bind you satan, and all of your tactics and schemes. I bind seducing and lustful spirits that would try and influence our eyes in the natural realm. I bind any and everything that would attempt to be a stumbling block to purpose and destiny. I decree that the enemy’s way is dark and slippery and that no weapon formed against our lives shall prosper and every lying tongue that is attempting to rise against us shall be condemned.

I thank You Lord God that our eyes are the lamps of our bodies, I decree that my eyes and the eyes of my spouse are healthy therefore our whole bodies are full of the light of Jesus. We will not look to the left or to the right but will keep our eyes solely on Jesus.

My spouse and I understand that the Lord does not see as man sees; men look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart. I thank You that my spouse is a man after God’s own heart. I thank You that I am a woman after God’s own heart. I thank You Lord that we (my spouse and I) do not look upon anyone outside of our marital covenant with lustful intent so that we will not commit adultery in our hearts. My spouse and I will not set before our eyes anything that is worthless for we hate the work of those who fall away; it WILL NOT cling to us!

The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirit. As we commit our work to the Lord, our plans will be established.

I thank You Lord for laying your hands upon the eyes of my spouse and me again; that our eyes are opened, our sight restored and that we see everything clearly. Our eyes are open to see that there are more with us than against us as you showed Elisha’s servant when you opened his eyes to the mountain being full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha. We flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but we understand that the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

Praise the Lord that the Spirit of the Lord is upon my spouse and me, because He has anointed us to proclaim news to the poor. He has sent us to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed. Our testimony of Your grace and mercy in our lives will be used to set others free from the bondage that entraps them.

In Jesus name, Amen!