The Stand – DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!


Are you ready to throw in the towel? Are you saying this is too hard and I just need to move on with my life? Are you comparing other testimonies to yours and deciding that the manifestation is taking too long? Are you going through divorce proceedings and feel like there is no hope?

I am here to encourage you, to whomever this is reaching! DO NOT GIVE UP! God shows himself best in the bleakest of circumstances. He is a lawyer, a judge, a protector! The end of thing is usually the beginning.

Yes its hard, yes it hurts but though you endure weeping for a night, joy is sure to come in the morning. God is working even though you can’t see it. He is working everything out for your good. The tears of the process will be outweighed in comparison to the joy received. Open your eyes and look again. See your spouse coming home; see your spouse saved and serving the Lord!

Psalms 27:13-14 (AMP)

[What, what would have become of me] had I not believed that I would see the Lord’s goodness in the land of the living!

Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring. Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord.

I believe that if many could see how close they were to the finish line they would hang on just a little while longer and there are some that God has shown that if they would have held on they would have seen the manifestation.

One more prayer might break the fallow ground, one more praise may dispatch the right amount of angelic intervention, one more tear may soak the bed of prayers that are present in the throne room.

National Anthem: “Wait and hope for and expect the Lord”

Behold He comes riding on the clouds, your answer, your breakthrough is right there. DO NOT GIVE UP!

Standing – Lessons Learned

Standing – Lessons Learned

  1. Manipulating and control tools do not work in winning your prodigal spouse over. You cannot talk them into coming back, you cannot trick them into coming back and you cannot make them come back. Pray for God to turn their heart back and then they will come back in His timing.
  2. Crying is necessary. Yelling is necessary. Speaking ill words toward your spouse is destructive.
  3. He/She looks like your spouse but really it is a deceived spirit dressed up like your spouse. Stop talking to a spirit and direct your speech to God.
  4.  If you remain faithful to your spouse and most importantly you’re God, God will take care of you. I am a witness.                            Testimony: Never got evicted, lights never were shut off, always had food to eat!
  5. Never be surprised about what your spouse is saying about you (truth, lies, negative) it’s all a part of the package. Just note that every lying tongue that is risen against you in judgment, He shall prove to be in the wrong!!!
  6. Rejoice with others as they experience breakthrough. It really does give hope to your situation.
  7. Do NOT listen to emotions. Listen to His VOICE! Emotions steer you wrong every time!
  8. If God has ceased communication between your spouse and you for a season, do not interrupt it because you “feel” like you should. You are just setting yourself up for more hurt and you have had enough.
  9. Study His Word. Worship and praise does wonders for pain and anguish. The only One that said He would never leave or forsake you was Jesus!!
  10. They lied, cheated, spit and talked about Jesus and you are exempt because of???????

The Stand – Devastated


My prayer is to help those that are going through the process. The process is not microwaveable and does not happen overnight.

As the hurtful words spoken by your spouse cut through the deepest parts of your heart many find themselves whirling in despair as they try to handle what is going on, still go to work, still take care of the children, still praise God because He is good no matter what but at the same time critically wounded by the cutting words of their one-flesh spouse.

I was watching this movie the other night where a woman was hit with a huge semi-truck, rolled up on the windshield and then to the ground.  I am using this example to describe how many that has gone through what I call “the bottom falling out of your marriage. “ You feel as if you have been hit by a semi-truck, blindsided.”

Nothing can describe the pain that a spouse feels as the one they have vowed to love and vice versa, honor and cherish turns their back and says things like: We never should have gotten married, I don’t love you anymore, or I love you but I am not in love with you, You are not my wife/husband, I am never coming back or the ultimate I want a divorce!

What do you do as lie curled up in a fetal position on the floor in the most gut wrenching pain you have ever experienced? You are devastated at this turn in your matrimonial story and IT HURTS!!!! Unlike the woman in the movie whose suffered fatal injuries, your injuries are not unto death.

John 11:4 “This sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God, that the Son of God might be glorified thereby.”

I pray to encourage the wounded and brokenhearted today and to let you know that it is okay to cry, it is okay to hurt because what you are experiencing is real. At the same time during this process you have to cry and hurt and continue moving forward. This sickness of marital issues is not unto death but that God might be glorified. Jesus walked in spoke to Lazarus and told him to get up. In God’s timing He will tell your spouse: “Get up and Go Home to your wife/husband.”

Your marriage may appear dead, but it is really under sedation as the Lord works on the hearts and minds of both parties to bring them back together as a new glorified body. Only God can do this, so stop trying to do this on your own.  Allow God to heal your broken heart. Let Go of this crisis and Let God fix everything!


Have you ever gone to the market to buy groceries? As you are on your way to the car you pick up the bag, the bottom of the bag falls out spilling everything including that favorite ice cream that you really didn’t need but wanted anyway. You begin to think in sorrow about how much money you spent on everything as you pick up the remainder of the items from the ground.

I know it is not exact, but for many of us that is how many of us feel when the bottom falls out of the marriage that we entered too full of hope, love and faith until death do we part.

With tears streaming down our faces we begin to pick up what can be salvaged while pondering on all the time, laughs, joys, sorrows, prayers and tears we have sown. Our spill is intermingled with loss, betrayal, abuse as we try to pick up what can be saved to begin again. Some choose to just throw everything away and start over(taking the receipt back to get replacement items) while others decide to take what has been salvaged and believe with faith  the size of a  mustard seed that God who stood witness on their wedding day can do the impossible.

He can change minds, soften hardened hearts, remove guilt, shame, betrayal and defeat and make it all new again.

Seek God when the bottom falls out of your marriage. God what do I do? Your friends, etc cannot give you divine direction for your life. They were not there when God made you. They do not have any clue on the path and the power that God placed within you before the foundation of the world. God may have placed a “you can do this” in you but they are not able to see it.

Ask God: Do I stand?

Do not go by any other voice than the voice of God. Do not stand because someone else stood and was restored. God’s plan for your life may be completely different from theirs. When someone comes to me and says God told them to stand, who I am to question it?

When the bottom falls out of your marriage, life etc. go to the One who created you and knows your end from your beginning. Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.”

No one else can tell you whether to throw the groceries away and buy some more or to pick up what you can salvage and believe God for the restoration of what was lost but God Himself. Now when God tells you to stand be prepared for the biggest battle over your mind that you will ever fight. The enemy does not play fair, you have to remember that you are VICTORIOUS throughout the battle. It more than likely will not happen over night and you are fooling yourself if you think otherwise. Don’t throw away destiny for refurbished parts. We all know that refurbished items might work well for a while but they end up breaking down anyway.

The good thing about God is that when He restores, you come out with what you lost plus interest. 😉

When the bottom falls out seek God and His Will for your life!



The Stand – What you (see) CREATE is what you get

The Stand – The Power to Create

Do you know that you were made in His image and His likeness? Do you know what that actually means?

Everything that our Father did we have been given the power to do also.

In Genesis 1 as God was creating the earth he did the following things:

  1. He noticed in verse 2 – Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.
  2. In verse 3 – And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. God saw that the light was good, and he separated the light from the darkness.

In every situation you are facing do just like God did:

  1. Notice the darkness you are surrounded with,
  2. Speak light into your situation by the Word of God and praying in the spirit (if you have a prayer language),
  3. See what you have spoken into existence, and
  4. Separate your current view from the darkness of the past.

An example for standing – (NOTICE, SPEAK, SEE, SEPARATE)

  1. NOTICE the separation, betrayal etc. you may be experiencing
  2. SPEAK light into your situation – It is written “What God has joined together let no man break apart”, “God hates divorce,”
  3. SEE your marriage healed, your spouse and you enjoying a quiet night at home, serving in the ministry together etc.
  4. No matter what you see in the present natural, SEPARATE it by looking at what you have created by the spoken word. See your marriage healed, see your children restored, see your body healthy….

Just as Elisha told the servant to look again, I ask all of you to take another look and if you don’t like what you see,

CREATE IT, just like your ABBA did in Genesis 1.

John 14:12-14 New International Version (NIV)

12 Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. 13 And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.

In Jesus name, Amen!

Standing – Intensive Care Unit

Critical care usually takes place in an intensive care unit (ICU) or trauma center. Your situation may currently be in ICU. Only approved visitors can visit a patient in this area because it is literally a matter of life and death. In this situation you have to review everyone in your circle to see whether the people in your circle are approved to visit. In the ICU you have machines, tubes etc. keeping you alive and your body functioning. You don’t have time for foolishness as your life clings on. There are some people that have to see to believe.

Luke 8: 49 While Jesus was still speaking, someone came from the house of Jairus, the synagogue leader. “Your daughter is dead,” he said. “Don’t bother the teacher anymore.” 50 Hearing this, Jesus said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.” 51 When he arrived at the house of Jairus, he did not let anyone go in with him except Peter, John and James, and the child’s father and mother. 52 Meanwhile, all the people were wailing and mourning for her. “Stop wailing,” Jesus said. “She is not dead but asleep.” 53 They laughed at him, knowing that she was dead. 54 But he took her by the hand and said, “My child, get up!”

Let’s take a look at this in regards to healing of your marriage, family, or physical. People that know your situation are telling you that your “situation” is dead. To them it seems that no life exists, you should just move on and see what the end is going to be. So that you will really believe, people are sent into your circle are people that have titles (Friend, Minister, Aunt etc.) someone that you really trust. They in their true concern for your life tell you that there is no hope of resurrection in your situation. Some of them laugh behind your back and smile in your face.

However, you have a word from God (God spoke to Jairus directly promising healing of her daughter), just as Jairus had in the scripture above, “Don’t be afraid; just believe, and she will be healed.” “She is not dead but asleep.”

God has given you a word directly: Your marriage is not dead but it is asleep. You are not dead but alive. Your son/daughter is not lost but saved.

During the manifestation of your prayers you may have to reposition some people in your life. Jesus only took those in with Him that believed that He was able to perform the miraculous. Only let God ordained people in your circle (ICU) while God is working your miracle. Close your ears to all negative words, gossip or discussion. Surround yourself with the Promise that He gave you. Eat, sleep and drink His Word and His presence(Worship).

When the door opens on your manifestation all the people that doubted, fake-cried, laughed etc. will see what God told you the entire time.

Just smile and say: To God be the glory because only He was able to do this all I did was STAND!

Psalm 35 – The Lord, The Avenger of the people

You must decree the word in order for it to be established. Pray this psalm regarding your enemies. Remember the enemy is just that the enemy, not the person themselves.

Plead my cause, O Lord, with those who strive with me;
Fight against those who fight against me.
Take hold of shield and buckler,
And stand up for my help.
Also draw out the spear,
And stop those who pursue me.
Say to my soul,
“I am your salvation.”

Let those be put to shame and brought to dishonor
Who seek after my life;
Let those be turned back and brought to confusion
Who plot my hurt.
Let them be like chaff before the wind,
And let the angel[a] of the Lord chase them.
Let their way be dark and slippery,
And let the angel of the Lord pursue them.
For without cause they have hidden their net for me in a pit,
Which they have dug without cause for my life.
Let destruction come upon him unexpectedly,
And let his net that he has hidden catch himself;
Into that very destruction let him fall.

And my soul shall be joyful in the Lord;
It shall rejoice in His salvation.
10 All my bones shall say,
“Lord, who is like You,
Delivering the poor from him who is too strong for him,
Yes, the poor and the needy from him who plunders him?”

11 Fierce witnesses rise up;
They ask me things that I do not know.
12 They reward me evil for good,
To the sorrow of my soul.
13 But as for me, when they were sick,
My clothing was sackcloth;
I humbled myself with fasting;
And my prayer would return to my own heart.
14 I paced about as though he were my friend or brother;
I bowed down heavily, as one who mourns for his mother.

15 But in my adversity they rejoiced
And gathered together;
Attackers gathered against me,
And I did not know it;
They tore at me and did not cease;
16 With ungodly mockers at feasts
They gnashed at me with their teeth.

17 Lord, how long will You look on?
Rescue me from their destructions,
My precious life from the lions.
18 I will give You thanks in the great assembly;
I will praise You among many people.

19 Let them not rejoice over me who are wrongfully my enemies;
Nor let them wink with the eye who hate me without a cause.
20 For they do not speak peace,
But they devise deceitful matters
Against the quiet ones in the land.
21 They also opened their mouth wide against me,
And said, “Aha, aha!
Our eyes have seen it.

22 This You have seen, O Lord;
Do not keep silence.
O Lord, do not be far from me.
23 Stir up Yourself, and awake to my vindication,
To my cause, my God and my Lord.
24 Vindicate me, O Lord my God, according to Your righteousness;
And let them not rejoice over me.
25 Let them not say in their hearts, “Ah, so we would have it!”
Let them not say, “We have swallowed him up.”

26 Let them be ashamed and brought to mutual confusion
Who rejoice at my hurt;
Let them be clothed with shame and dishonor
Who exalt themselves against me.

27 Let them shout for joy and be glad,
Who favor my righteous cause;
And let them say continually,
“Let the Lord be magnified,
Who has pleasure in the prosperity of His servant.”
28 And my tongue shall speak of Your righteousness
And of Your praise all the day long.

Lessons in Standing Part II

1. The battle has already been won, you just have to realize it!

2. Realize who the real enemy is. It is not your spouse or any other person, its the enemy!

3. Love covers a multitude! Its like that extra layer of icing on the cake!

4. His Word will not return back to Him void, and every other word spoken can cause life or death to your restoration!

5. Honesty with God is the best policy. In your quiet time with God tell Him how you really feel, but say “All is well” to everyone else!

6. Cut away all unnecessary warfare. Start with you, only speak, breathe and live the Word of God. All other air is poisonous!

7. Sow into your restoration. Find a married couple and buy them an evening out on the town. You reap what you sow!

8. If you don’t want a salty marriage, then don’t be look back like Lot’s wife did!

Bring me the ephod

Bring me the Ephod

In 1 Samuel 30, David is faced with a distressing situation. As they were carrying out the work of the Lord, the wives and children of his men as well as himself have been captured. Everyone including David is wounded to the point of tearless crying. His men are mad at him and blaming him for this situation.

Does any of this sound familiar? Are your finances a mess? Are you facing separation from your spouse? Are your children/teenagers acting in rebellion or distancing themselves due to their own hurt? Is your spouse/family blaming you for all of the problems in your life right now? How many nights have you cried until there are no more tears left to cry asking God for direction and guidance for your situation?

The answer to all of your questions is described in the following verse:

1 Samuel 30 Then David said to Abiathar the priest, the son of Ahimelek, Bring me the ephod.”

David clothed himself in a garment that was worn to connect with God in worship. When this garment was worn it signified a direct uninterrupted connection to God. When you need to discover what God’s direction is for your life in any situation, the answer lies in clothing yourself in the “ephod” of worship. Positioning yourself into the holy of holies, just you and God and lying prostrate in your heart before Him spreading out all concerns at his feet. David understood that he did not have the answers but he served the One who did. He knew that he had to separate himself from the people and the situations he was facing and get into the face of God.

Every last one of us must do what David did. Whenever a situation presents itself in your life simply say: “Bring me the ephod.”

Begin to worship and praise the One who created every answer to every circumstance you may be facing right now. It’s in His Presence that you find answers, safety, peace, joy, love and strength. Have the tenacity like Jacob to say “God I am not moving until you speak, until you bless, until you direct.” Seek out and desire to hear His voice, let God know that His Voice is the only One you will follow.

1 Samuel 30 Abiathar brought it to him, and David inquired of the Lord, “Shall I pursue this raiding party? Will I overtake them?” “Pursue them,” he answered.  “You will certainly overtake them and succeed in the rescue.”

While David worshipped he received his answer in verse 8 as noted above: I am here to tell you that you have the victory! Whatever the battles you are involved in right now know this, it is written: “You will certainly overtake them and succeed in the rescue.”

Everything that was stolen from you will be rescued from the land of the enemy and returned for it is written:

Joel 2:25  “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.” In Jesus name, Amen!






The Tongue – The Lethal Weapon

One of the smallest members of the body causes so MUCH trouble. When we are feeling good, we speak good but when we are mad, Lord have mercy, whomever is around is going to catch the flame of whatever is launched!

The tongue is the pen of a ready writer which means the minute you begin to speak it creates what you say. In your stand whatever it may be you must watch what you say out of your mouth to your spouse, child, family member and even your self. The enemy will set up situations so that you will say the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time!

Have you ever thought back to an argument and everything that was said and said to yourself “Why did I say that?” Then regret sets in followed by condemnation. It is just like eating something you knew you shouldn’t have and now tasked to work it off at the gym.

James 3:9With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. 11 Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening?”

Jesus gave the perfect example when confronted by satan after His 40 days of fasting in the wilderness. Everything that the enemy presented to Him, he replied with the Word of God “It is written….” He did not reply with “My ex treated me better than you”, “Child you are never going to amount to nothing”, “I wish I never married you”, “I wish I never gave birth to you” and so on and so on. The devil HAS to back down at the Word of God, spirits have to back down at the Word of God, it is the same powerful weapon that God used to create the universe and everything in it and guess what He has given you the same ability!

Our replies should be based on God’s word. It is written:God hates divorce“, It is written “What God has joined together let no man separate” “My son/daughter is the head and not the tail, above only and never beneath, they are more than conquerors and they will overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony“, “My husband loves me as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it“, as his wife I will respect my husband as the head and priest of our home etc…

Proverbs 12:18 “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

Try and Think before you speak! I know you may be mad at that moment but don’t create more warfare than you are already experiencing. Every morning decree that you have the tongue of the wise that brings healing. It goes back to the wise old saying:

“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say ANYTHING at ALL!